I was twenty-four years old before I heard of agape. It was in the darkest time of my life –a time of utter brokenness. One day, in his efforts to console and counsel me, a coworker explained what agape love is.
I had been in and out of church for most of my life, yet I had never heard of agape. My coworker described agape as unconditional love.
Unconditional love means:
- Love that is not subject to any conditions.
- Love that does not keep track of all the things you do wrong.
- Love that you cannot mess up! (No matter how bad or good you are.)
- Love that is the same. You cannot do anything to lessen it or increase it; it is the same, steady love, day in and day out.
This is the kind of love that fills you and frees you!
It’s radically different from the world’s love.
I had spent the last fourteen years deprived of knowing about this amazing love. So, it’s no surprise that would I actively seek out other forms of love. I pursued passionate romantic love and true friendship. I searched high and low for a love that would make me feel valuable. I deeply yearned to be worthy of someone’s love.
But you can only be rejected so many times before you start to believe you deserve it. And at that time of my life, I felt totally alone and unlovable.
Love is not a feeling. It’s a person!
The world defines love as a strong passion, an affection for another person, a feeling of warmth, or a personal attachment.
But God defines love as Himself. God is love. (Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 1 John 4:8)
My coworker guided me to this truth, and I found God’s unconditional love.
I did not fully comprehend the significance of this concept at the time, but I have since come to understand that I am completely loved. Those feelings of rejection and worthlessness were not my true identity.
The truth is God set me apart before I was born as one who was and is and always will be loved by Him.
As God’s Church, we cannot afford to forget what God did out of His abundant love for us:
God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 NIV
We did not deserve His sacrificial love for us, yet it is ours to receive.
As God’s greatly loved children, we are then compelled to share this amazingly good news of God’s agape love with as many people as we can!
Like me, many are still desperately searching for love because no one shared with them the blessing of God’s free gift.
This is our commission…our calling.
The only logical reason we would not be sharing this, almost “too good to be true” love, is because we have yet to fully comprehend it for ourselves.
To know LOVE compels you to share LOVE!
Sister, will you rise to the challenge with me and share agape with someone every day?
God whispers to us all, “You are loved. It is part of your identity. It is etched into your being, and it can never be removed. It is in your very fingerprints—every indelible line testifies that you are loved.”
Will you accept this challenge?