As women, often we don’t realize we are among God’s greatest creations.
I grew up in the New Orleans area, raised by women who put a high value on physical appearance. It didn’t matter if you were hurting on the inside, you had to put on a smile and pull yourself together. Being raised this way caused me to tuck my emotions away in a safe hiding place, and I became a person who showed no emotions. Everyone thought I had it all together, and my life was perfect, but inside I felt like I was dying. I had no joy. I thought all I had to do was look perfect and try my best not to do or say anything wrong, and happiness would follow.
I made the mistake of looking to others for approval, comfort, and self-worth. It wasn’t until I experienced the greatest emotional pain of my life, when my marriage fell completely apart, that I realized every inch of my self-worth had been dependent on my husband’s approval. I expected a man to meet needs only God can meet: comfort, safety, and unconditional, agape love. On a lighter note, I have learned that men are human and don’t ride in on white horses to sweep you off your feet. In fact, most don’t have a barn built or even know how to ride a horse! Men make mistakes just like women do, and sometimes women put too much pressure on them to be the Prince Charmings or knights in shining armor.
Along the way, I also discovered what a personal relationship with God really means. I am thankful for these truths:
God is your comforter: Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God…2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV
God is your safety: In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety… Psalm 4:8, NIV
God is Love:…And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and know this love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God… Ephesians 3:17-19, NIV
I am thankful to have learned that true beauty comes from within. or anyone else to view us as beautiful, we must first believe it ourselves . No woman’s self-worth should be dependent on the opinion of others. God made each of us, and we are daughters of the King of Kings.
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised…”Proverbs 31:30, NIV